radical acceptance

Last week, my roommate's boyfriend got sick with either coronavirus or ongoing hypochondria -- either way I wanted a break from his antics. But, as it turns out, co-dependent relationships don't hold up well in pandemics marked by separation. On Friday night, came the tantrum -- "how could you choose to quarantine with him (me) and not with ME (and my needs)?" I was the other woman, in my own home. The next day, my roommate to disappeared, met up with his boyfriend, and came home with his boyfriend. "I think we need to radically accept that we all share the same germs anyway so it's okay for us to all be together." I was not pleased: "Look, I'm sorry it's hard for you to be alone right now, but what's happening in the world is not about you, it's about everyone's health and safety." The response I received was was an iconic brand of selfishness: "Me being separated from my boyfriend is a threat to my health and safety -- YOU are putting ME at risk." Selfishness is the much more dangerous pandemic and it will be here long after COVID-19. He's currently in our shower.